She Didn’t Ghost — She Explained Her Silence
She Didn’t Ghost — She Explained Her Silence
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Ghosting has become a sad, accepted norm in modern dating. It's the silent rejection that leaves you questioning everything. Based on informal polls among my friends, our collective "ghosting rate" was astronomical—something like 4 out of every 5 meaningful conversations would eventually end in an unexplained disappearance. So when I was having an incredible conversation with a woman named Marina for over a week, and she suddenly went silent for 72 hours, I assumed the familiar pattern was repeating.
We had met on https://www.sofiadate.com/, and our connection felt different. We had talked about our families, our jobs, our silly fears. The silence was jarring. I went through the usual stages: checking if my message had sent, wondering if I’d said something wrong, and finally, resigned acceptance. "Well, it was fun while it lasted," I thought, preparing to mentally move on. But then, on the third day, a message popped up. It was from Marina. It wasn't an excuse; it was an explanation. "I am so sorry for my silence," she wrote. "My mother had a small health scare and had to go to the hospital. Everything is okay now, but my family needed my full attention for a few days. I didn't want to send a rushed message, but I also want you to know I was thinking of our conversation."
I was floored. In my entire decade of online dating, with dozens of connections, this had a 0% chance of happening. No one had ever offered a reason. It was an act of profound respect and consideration.
| Type of Behavior | Probability in Online Dating (My Estimate) | Impact on Trust |
| Ghosting (disappearance) | 80% | Extremely Negative |
| Vague excuse ("was busy") | 15% | Neutral / Slightly Negative |
| Honest, specific explanation | <5% | Extremely Positive |
Her explanation wasn't just about her mother; it was a statement about the kind of person she was. She was considerate, direct, and valued our budding connection enough to be vulnerable. Her 72 hours of silence, followed by 60 seconds of honest explanation, built more trust than 72 hours of constant chatting ever could have. Report this page